Sometimes you see someone suffering badly (physically or and emotionally) and you feel like helping them but they just cant get better even though you put every effort you can! Do you ever wonder, Why?!!
I do come across many people like that and I feel the same way but………
Well, before you read this further I want to say that I am not trying to criticize anyone here. I purely want to bring awareness on our belief system which plays huge part on our health and wellness.
“The moment you change your perception is the moment you rewrite the chemistry of your body.”
– Bruce H Lipton
Many people when diagnosed with any condition, they either ask their doctor or friends or family or search on internet, what are the causes, symptoms, side effects etc…. Not everyone gets every symptom or side effect of the same condition but once they know the list, they question their brain and look for the slightest signs to confirm themselves that yes I am suffering with this condition! Actually they have programmed their brain and body to produce those symptoms which they didn’t have prior to their search and they surrender to it!
Some clients believe that if they get a treatment or therapy once a week or fortnight it would be enough to get better and be pain free. As a therapist we make our clients understand that they need to make an effort at home on a regular basis and that coming for an hour long treatment is just not enough. You need to help yourself first. But many clients think that it’s a tick list on the process of getting better that they are taking medicine and treatment so they should feel better! After few treatments, they think it’s not working and find another alternative which sounds promising but the key fact that they are missing here is, trying different therapies or medicines one after the other is not the ultimate solution. Therapists are there to help you when you are helping and making an effort yourself first! To change their health condition, they need to change something that they do daily. To expect a different result with the same old habit and lifestyle is not going to happen!
Some people are Sympathy seekers and they are not consciously aware of it either! These clients come and you realise that they feel that nothing is working for them. They are suffering so badly and have tried absolutely everything but no one can help them cure their condition. Here they are again to give another therapist a chance to do something for them which none of the previous doctors, medicines, treatments or therapists could do! Now I believe that even God can’t help these people as they are doing everything to get better but their mind-set is programmed in a way that they are in a very bad condition and nothing out there yet that can heal or help them! When their friends or someone else suggests something to help them, they start saying the list of things they have tried and still after all this effort they are suffering. They blame the situations, people, doctors, medical system and, in short, everything is responsible for their condition!! For these kinds of people, all we can do is pray and wait for the day when they finally become fed up of their condition and have had enough sympathy that they decide to help themselves by changing their mind-set.
Now, the type of clients all therapists like are the one who are open to receive and believe that they are on the way to get better as they are making an effort. They do not surrender under the illness. These clients take the therapy or treatment and also follow the instructions at home to look after themselves. They have strong desire to get healthier and be pain free. They understand that with our help they can get better and then they will be able to maintain their health by changing their daily choices and lifestyle. I see great strength in them and feel so grateful about being a therapist to see them getting better much quicker with our combined efforts and dedication to have a better pain free life!! I have met a few people who are diagnosed with a lifelong condition but they refuse to suffer and start taking action, changed their entire lifestyle, habit and surrounding which was pulling them down! The result is they are free and living healthy life now!